I have mentioned her in the past and now I’d like to share my story.
My sister is only 16 months younger than me. We were dressed alike often as small children and taught to love each other, but as much as I do love her, I also can’t stand her a lot of the time. It sounds really harsh, but she is one of those people who expects to be taken care of and catered to. Yes, I have enabled her and fed into that expectation her whole life until the last two years, but it still makes me mad that she is still that way.
And my family doesn’t help matters. While I had to take out student loans to pay my way through school, my parents paid for her schooling and rent. In SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA! A one-bedroom cost $1200 and because she got knocked up accidentally while in college, my parents paid that rent for her and I didn’t get anything because they knew I could take care of myself.
I also made the 7-hr one way driving trip down there to help her with my nephew at least every 6 weeks. Sometimes every 3 when my schedule and funds permitted it. She slept while I took care of him two or three times during the night and sometimes I couldn’t even sleep in a bed because he would only sleep if i held him upright. I have bought her parenting books, spoiled my nephew rotten because she’s been a single parent almost his entire 5 years of life and taken time off of work to take care of him when his day care closed for summer and holiday breaks.
Now she’s engaged to a loser and while I have helped her with her wedding SO much already she is mad that I didn’t want to take a day trip out of town to shop for bridesmaid dresses. We are having a seamstress make our dresses and I already picked mine out so what do we need to send a whole day out of town shopping for? Anyway, because I didn’t want to do that she threatened to have someone else be MOH and ignored my text about my CP. Can you say harsh?
So I just wrote her an email laying it all out there and hopefully she can be honest with herself and we can start over. Not only does she expect everything in life to be handed to her, but she can’t believe she does anything wrong. I don’t have high hopes, but I’m hoping this can be the start of a different relationship. Our family is uber close and in our culture, family is everything. But I refuse to continue on the way we have.
So cross your fingers please. I hope this works. If not, I feel good about telling her exactly how I feel and getting everything out in the open. Now I can go on my run and get my house in order for the week ahead. Thanks for being there for me through the tough times. It really helps to know all of you are there when my own family sometimes isn’t. 🙂