OK, I need your feedback. My doctor didn’t put us on any intercourse restrictions after transfer and even though I reeeeally want to have sex, I’m terrified of it. He said there’s no conclusive research showing it messes things up, but even with his blessing I’m having a hard time allowing myself to do it.

What are your thoughts?

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  1. We didn’t until the second tri, but that was just as much because I was so damn tired as afraid. BUt I was afraid, don’t get me wrong. It was fine-nothing went wrong (actually, it was better. I think having all the TTC pressure gone really improved things).

  2. My biggest issue is dealing with spotting. I have had spotting after both trans vag u/s and so assume that sex with also cause spotting. At 13 weeks, I am starting to feel a little braver but still haven’t been brave enough.

  3. I do not think it will have any impact on your pregnancy. The baby is secure and cushioned by the amniotic fluids. My advice is to make sure it’s relatively gentle and also that there’s not a lot of pressure on your belly with whichever position you choose. If you do have any bleeding after (cervical issues), then my doctor advised to give it a few days of abstinence and just keep a close eye on any bleeding. So far, I’ve had no bleeding, but I’d be more cautious if you’re having any.

      • Yup! It’s been just fine so far. I agree with one of the other commenters, that it’s actually really great to not feel the pressue of TTC anymore. It makes sex much better having that weight lifted. Just take care of yourself and pay close attention to your body. If it feels uncomfortable or you’re too stressed about it, maybe give it some time.

      • Ok thanks! Yeah that’s why (besides the hormones, I guess?) I really want to have sex. Between retrieval and transfer, it was nice to have sex just because we wanted to! And I think we wanted to more because we no longer tied it babymaking.

  4. Due to my spotting last week, I’ve put a hold on it. We are both itching to try, but I’d prefer not to experience any more bleeding right now. We may hold off until after first trimester unless I get comfortable with the idea before then. NOTE: Spotting was NOT caused by intercourse but I’m expecting intercourse to cause more.

  5. I kinda want to, but I’m too scared. Spotting, cramping, anything that a orgasm might do. I plan on waiting.

  6. I had a subchorionic bleed unfortunately so there was no sex (meaning penatration or otherwise) until I had 2 weeks with no blood/spotting. After 3 heavy gushes of blood after a couple of the vag ultrasounds, I had mostly brown spotting until about week 15. After that I was good to go.

    It really comes down to how you feel. You certainly want to be cautious. If something like some spotting were to occur you don’t want to cause yourself even more worry/stress and feel guilty about anything.

    I really hated having to wait so long, because my hormones were raging! But I got through it and was glad I didn’t push things.

  7. I did early on when pregnant with my daughter and had some spotting a few days later. Totally freaked out went to the doc told everything was fine, so I would say do it but if you have some spotting try not to freak call your doc and get reassured. I also had sex in the first trimester with this pregnancy and had no spotting everything was totally fine. I’m now on pelvic rest because of placenta Previa which sucks so I vote for go for it!! In a few weeks you may not feel like it anymore so enjoy while you can!

  8. if you feel up to it and the doc gives the all-clear, i say go for it! i wish we’d taken advantage more before my belly made positioning more of a pain – hubby is much more wary than i šŸ˜›

  9. I found that progesterone suppositories made sex horrible. It just felt like I had sand or some other gritty thing in my lady bits…and not fun. Plus, my sex drive is just gone gone gone. šŸ˜¦
    If you are up for it and all works well, GO FOR IT! šŸ™‚

    • p.s. this time around (without progesterone), we’ve had some sex, but mostly I just don’t have any desire. šŸ˜¦ The times we have done it (the day we found out, and a few other random times), nothing has happened. šŸ™‚ And I’m only weeks away from D-day.

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