Ok, one of my worst fears is happening and even though I know everything will be fine, I’m really distraught.
I’ve not had the best luck with doctors since the one who diagnosed me with endo 10+ years ago. I found most don’t give you all the info about all your options, are annoyed when you do your own research, and have lacking bedside manners. So I’ve felt SO lucky to have a primary care physician AND gyno-turned-OB who are none of those. They respect me enough to let me choose the best course, but are competent and thorough so I often feel comfortable deferring to their opinions, and are so great at the bedside manner-thing that I’d love to be their friend! (Not exaggerating)
This was especially important for my gyno as I had just left my fertility clinic and at didn’t know where to go or what to do next. He made me feel comfortable immediately and even though he didn’t specialize in infertility, he completely understood the emotional aspects of it. That was huge for me!
And when we were fortunate enough to get pregnant, he agreed to follow the early pregnancy closely, acknowledging we were at a precarious place, and then once we passed the first trimester he again acknowledged what a huge feat that was. Talk about TLC at it’s finest! He has been a positive and supporting physician for the last 2 years and I’ve looked forward to the day that he got to meet our miracle (whether as the delivering physician or popping in to check on us, as is his practice of he doesn’t deliver) and now that won’t happen. He’s leaving my medical group in July.
The other thing that I’m dealing with is increased fear. I have felt better recently because he is so confident in this pregnancy. And I’m so confident in him. I trust him explicitly so knowing that if anything comes up, he’ll be straightforward and do all he can to help. Also, I trusted him to get me through labor and delivery. Yes, it’s likely he wouldn’t actually be there for the delivery, but even discussing our birth plan and options with him was something I really looked forward to. I have always trusted that he has mine and this baby’s best interest at heart.
Now I have to find a new doctor to replace him. How do I do that?